“I used ChatGPT to save my relationship, here’s what it did for me”

Our fights used to feel like tense reality TV episodes: action-packed, a little too loud, and downright exhausting. Then one night, feeling a bit on edge, I called on an unexpected ally: ChatGPT. Yes, artificial intelligence. And no, it's not as cold and weird as it sounds.

One evening, after yet another argument

We've been together for 8 years. The kind of relationship where we finish each other's sentences... and sometimes also get on each other's nerves. Despite the love (still there, I assure you) , communication was becoming more and more... acrobatic. It only took one wrong word for everything to degenerate: poorly worded reproaches, icy silences, sentences we regret barely having said.

One evening, the atmosphere was frosty. We had argued—again—over something trivial. I think it was about summer vacation: she wanted the mountains this time, me the sea again, and we found ourselves throwing reproaches at each other about two-year-old issues. You get the idea... Rather than stir the emotional pot even more, I decided to do something I'd never dared: open ChatGPT.

An ear that listens without judging

What I discovered is that, deep down, ChatGPT acts like a polished mirror. Not one that reflects your flaws back to you, but one that reformulates your thoughts without betraying them. I explained the situation, set the scene, and expressed what I sincerely felt. And, magic: the AI offered me nuanced, caring, and above all, respectful formulations. No ready-made or overly "robotic" phrases. Just what was needed for the emotion to come across without ego getting involved.

I reworked the text a little, because I wanted it to remain me, with my turns of phrase, my little affectionate clumsiness. Then I sent it to him. And I waited. His response? "Thank you for speaking to me like that. You touched me." I cried. A little. A lot, even. Because deep down, it wasn't just a message. It was an outstretched hand. And it was ChatGPT who helped me extend it without trembling.

Words that don't hurt, but build

We ended up talking about it verbally, and I finally admitted to her that I had used ChatGPT. And you know what? She burst out laughing. Not mockingly, no. A laugh of relief. Because she, too, sometimes wanted to say things differently, without succeeding. So we decided to make it a "rule of the game": if one of us feels that the dialogue is getting tense, they can use ChatGPT to clarify things. Not as a crutch, but as a tool for emotional translation.

Mind you, I'm not saying that ChatGPT replaces a therapist or face-to-face conversations. Far from it, but it can act as a 3.0 communication coach, helping us break out of the vicious cycle of bad faith and bad phrases. And above all, it has reintroduced curiosity into the way we speak to each other. Because, deep down, loving yourself also means learning to say things better. Even with the help of a bot.

An AI, yes… but for a very real couple

In our relationship, there's no loudmouth and no silent one. There are two sensitive women, with different experiences, wounds too, and a ton of love that's sometimes poorly expressed. Thanks to ChatGPT, we've found a new way of saying things to each other. Gentler. Fairer. And frankly, healthier. No, it's not cheating. I think it's admitting that we don't always have the words, but that we want to search for them together, even if it's with the help of a robot. And that doesn't make our emotions any less real. On the contrary.

Since then, we've used ChatGPT sparingly. Not for everything, but for those pivotal moments when the slightest word can become an emotional grenade. AI encourages us to think before we speak, to defuse conflicts gracefully. It reminds us that apologizing isn't humiliating ourselves, but an act of courage. And that needing a little help to understand each other isn't a failure, it's human.

Using AI to love each other better is perhaps the 2025 version of "I love you, I love you not." It's accepting that we don't always know how to talk about love well, that we sometimes need help writing apologies that ring true. So yes, I used ChatGPT to save my relationship. And not only is it still there, this relationship, but it's a little stronger, a little sweeter. And I feel freer to love with the right words. Even if sometimes they come from a chatbot.